Very often people seem to confuse being alone with being lonely, or people jump to the conclusion that if you’re alone you must be lonely. I beg to differ.
People are not, necessarily, lonely just because they are not in a relationship. I have heard people say something like “I hope you’ll find someone soon” and adding quietly “so you can be happy”. But happiness is not defined by whether you are in a relationship or not. Happiness starts within ourselves and through the way we face our lives.
Yes, it’s true, people can actually be happy even if they are single. Surprise! Let me spell it out, being single is not a disease. It can actually be a blessing.
It all starts with “What do I want from (my) life?” And it truly occurs that being on your own is sometimes really the best you can do. It sometimes is the best to be in order to get what you want from life and be who you truly are. Because being who you truly are is what life is all about. And here it does not matter if you are in a relationship or not, whether you are hetero- or homosexual. All that matters is happiness.
Sadly, however, studies have shown, that coupled friends like to exclude their single friends from social activities, for whatever reason. It might even be subconsciously. But why do you want to tell your single friend that he is worth less just because (s)he is not in a relationship? Or, even worse, why do you feel pity for your single friend?
We all walk our own path of life. No life’s road is identical to any other. So we can and must not judge someone else’s road just because it does not fit our values or worldview. We do not know where that person is coming from and what her/his life’s road has been all about so far.
Yes, singles are alone. The number 1 is included in that word. But singles are not always lonely. Being alone helps you listening to your inner voice. Being alone helps you find answers to certain questions. Being alone helps you find your inner peace. Being alone helps you reveal your strength. Being alone helps you be who you truly are.
I am not saying you should always be alone. But there is a stop on your life’s road where it might be absolutely necessary. It could help you find yourself if that is what you want. Being alone gives you all the time needed to really heal if there is something needing to be healed. Being alone helps you getting ready for your true love and the beautiful relationship with it.
Being alone is not a curse; it is a blessing.
We find out what freedom and independence really mean for us. Thus, it stops us from making old mistakes in terms of relationships. Often, at some point in the relationship unrealistic expectations fill the air, and people’s desire to want outweighs the desire to give. Many people are in a relationship for getting something out of it. But a relationship should be based on unconditional love. Being alone helps you look at love from a complete different angle, and you could actually really develop that sense of unconditional love. This then is a relationship to last.
This life’s stop of being alone should be honoured and welcomed warmheartedly. Breathe in, exhale, and let the clocks go slower. Embrace it! Embrace your individuality!
And, honestly, I’d rather be alone and happy than lonely in a relationship!
People are not, necessarily, lonely just because they are not in a relationship. I have heard people say something like “I hope you’ll find someone soon” and adding quietly “so you can be happy”. But happiness is not defined by whether you are in a relationship or not. Happiness starts within ourselves and through the way we face our lives.
Yes, it’s true, people can actually be happy even if they are single. Surprise! Let me spell it out, being single is not a disease. It can actually be a blessing.
It all starts with “What do I want from (my) life?” And it truly occurs that being on your own is sometimes really the best you can do. It sometimes is the best to be in order to get what you want from life and be who you truly are. Because being who you truly are is what life is all about. And here it does not matter if you are in a relationship or not, whether you are hetero- or homosexual. All that matters is happiness.
Sadly, however, studies have shown, that coupled friends like to exclude their single friends from social activities, for whatever reason. It might even be subconsciously. But why do you want to tell your single friend that he is worth less just because (s)he is not in a relationship? Or, even worse, why do you feel pity for your single friend?
We all walk our own path of life. No life’s road is identical to any other. So we can and must not judge someone else’s road just because it does not fit our values or worldview. We do not know where that person is coming from and what her/his life’s road has been all about so far.
Yes, singles are alone. The number 1 is included in that word. But singles are not always lonely. Being alone helps you listening to your inner voice. Being alone helps you find answers to certain questions. Being alone helps you find your inner peace. Being alone helps you reveal your strength. Being alone helps you be who you truly are.
I am not saying you should always be alone. But there is a stop on your life’s road where it might be absolutely necessary. It could help you find yourself if that is what you want. Being alone gives you all the time needed to really heal if there is something needing to be healed. Being alone helps you getting ready for your true love and the beautiful relationship with it.
Being alone is not a curse; it is a blessing.
We find out what freedom and independence really mean for us. Thus, it stops us from making old mistakes in terms of relationships. Often, at some point in the relationship unrealistic expectations fill the air, and people’s desire to want outweighs the desire to give. Many people are in a relationship for getting something out of it. But a relationship should be based on unconditional love. Being alone helps you look at love from a complete different angle, and you could actually really develop that sense of unconditional love. This then is a relationship to last.
This life’s stop of being alone should be honoured and welcomed warmheartedly. Breathe in, exhale, and let the clocks go slower. Embrace it! Embrace your individuality!
And, honestly, I’d rather be alone and happy than lonely in a relationship!
